Thursday, April 14, 2011


I thought this up while trying to figure out my next novels storyline. Ok, so you have your leading lady and she has to choose between two possible love interests. But…one is true love and the other is simple lust. How is she to know which is which? Make the wrong choice and you could lose the love of your life forever.

Now I am thinking if I was her…how I would know the difference? How would I know that I am just lusting after a guy’s body and not him in general? I honestly don’t know. I suppose the one that loves you would care more about you while the one lusting after you would care for a more physical relationship. Regardless, such a choice or circumstance would be quite a dilemma. Let’s just hope I never get saddled with that choice. Dumping one guy and finding out months later that the one you chose dumped you for someone prettier…

I read the back covers of a few romance novels, who shall remain nameless, and it said something like “Will he be able to fight off his lust for her body or will she give into her love for him”. That theme came across a lot and that just confuses me even more. She loves him but he only lusts after her and they are supposed to live happily ever after? Come on! Why can’t he love her too?

Ok, I am driving myself crazy. But honestly, would you be able to tell the difference? Is there a safe choice?

Personally I would want the love…if I can spot the difference, but that’s just me.


  1. The trick is to look in his eyes. If he holds your gaze, it's love. If he stares at your mouth (or lower) it's lust. If he doesn't blink at all, he's a vampire. Simple.
    Moody Writing

  2. What makes one person love another or not is entirely up to you, as no one can be sure of any type of motivation. That is why being an author gives so many opportunities to play God and it's fun. Enjoy!

  3. I believe strongly that true love is not all about feelings and emotions. (And that our culture emphasizes these things way too much.) I think that true love can only exist and will only last between two people who share the same basic values. Opposites may attract, but a lasting relationship develops because of similarities.

  4. Mooderino - Brilliant answer. I will keep my eyes out for those vampires. It is nice knowing that there are a few things I can look out for.

    Siv - Definitely a great piece of advice Hah? I will be taking that advice, believe you me.

    Carole - I guess I should embrace the chance to make my characters push all the boundaries. Thanks for the great advice.

    Sarah - Certainly gives me a few things to consider. Thank you.

  5. Haha absolutely agree with mooderino. Hmm and as to the difference or not that's tough...choose one and then see how it is in five years? I suppose this would be one of those hindsight is 20/20 situations.

    Followed you over here from A-Z challenge!

  6. LOL I love mooderino's answer.

    I'd have to fall bac on the old saying, if you think he looks like Brad Pitt, then it's lust. If you think he is Brad Pitt then it's love.

  7. Caitlin - I also loved Mooderino's answer. But you have a very good point too. Thank you so much for stopping by and following my blog.

    C R Ward - Mooderino does say it best. But you make a valid point. Thank you.

  8. With romance novels it always seems like the male character falls in lust before love.

    Lust is temporary though. Eventually it wears off, but love is everlasting.

  9. Brianna - That is a very nice way of putting it. Thank you.


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