Wednesday, June 4, 2014

You must believe (IWSG)

When it comes to reaching goals or fulfilling dreams, the most important aspect is that you have to believe in yourself. It doesn’t matter if your dream or goal is writing related or not. If you want to achieve something, you have to believe that you can do it. You have to have faith in yourself. If you can’t believe or trust yourself, you can’t expect others to.

I know this because I don’t always believe in myself. I don’t always have confidence in my dreams or goals and wonder if I am truly talented enough to do what needs to be done. I don’t always believe that I have what it takes to do what I want. But every now and then I get a reality check and the feeling of trust and belief in myself kicks me in the face and before I know it, I am my own number one fan and cheerleader.

I’m not always the most confident person, but if I can believe in myself, so can you. 

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  1. Great thoughts. No matter how confident or how often you do this, you still have moments of self doubt. Remember your blessings and you'll get through it.

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  2. Very wise words.

    I don't always believe in myself, either. Like, almost never, if I'm being honest. My writers group was just telling me the other day that I have to be a bigger fan of myself. It's my latest work in progress, I guess. =)

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    1. It is such hard work. But you have to believe. You are so awesome, i just wish you could see what the rest of us see (or when we read...)

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  3. I don't like the word "talent." It implies some special gift imbued by the gods, and if you have it, you have it and if you don't, you're screwed. I prefer to think of writing as a discernible set of skills that can be learned, practiced, homed and employed. It requires patience and humility – you have to be able to really see what your strengths and deficits are, and work at learning the skills required to fill those deficits. But none of us are born writers. We become writers, and through plain old hard work that is available to most of us, we learn to be good ones. .

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    1. I stand corrected. Powerful words, thank you.

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    2. This, by the way, makes it unnecessary to be insecure in your writing. You don't have to worry about whether you have "talent," whatever that is. You just have to recognize that you can always learn more, and you can always get better.

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    3. Thank you, John. I really don't mind learning. I am always willing to learn more.

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  4. I can say I lack confidence, but I can also say confidence emerges through the doing. I am more confident now than I was when I first started reaching for this goal. With every step I accomplish, the better I feel and the more willing I am to go the next step, or reach for more. One step at a time, eyes forward not allowing myself to think about what I did not do or should have done, but confidence in the fact I know I did something.

    It is a process, an attitude and daily wrestle to just keep moving, especially those days when you don't feel like it. A thought from another insecure writer.

    Juneta at Writer's Gambit

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    1. This sounds like great advice, thank you. I love your attitude. Thank you for visiting.

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  5. And that's the secret - believing in ourselves.

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  6. Author Jessamyn West said it best. “Talent is helpful in writing, but guts are absolutely necessary.”

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    1. Great saying. I might not think I'm talented, but I know i got guts.

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  7. Oh, this is beautiful! And I love that Jessamyn West quote. Guts truly are necessary!

    Sarah Allen
    (From Sarah, With Joy)

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    1. Guts truly are. Thank you for stopping by.

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  8. I'll bet that everyone feels the same way sometimes, Murees. You have to focus on your dreams and try to persevere. You can do much more than you think. The more you write, the better you'll become.

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    1. Thank you for the kinds words. You are so right.

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  9. thanks to ur motivational comments...Do ur best, leave to God the rest & have faith in ur self.Wait & hope for it gives wings to fly high..U r talented & so don't give up!!..GOD LOVE U :))

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    1. You are welcome. Thank you for your kinds words. They give me hope.

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  10. I agree you have to believe in yourself - and also put in a lot of work. Self-belief alone won't do it, but you definitely can't achieve your goals without it.

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    1. Very true. Hard work is always essential.

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  11. I always refer to myself as a writer-in-the-making.
    Whether I "make" it or not... *shrugs*
    We'll see.
    I tend to sweep my insecurities under the rug and try to move on like everything is fine. But the insecurities are there. I think I'm learning to manage them.

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    1. I'm the exact opposite. I carry my heart on my sleeve. Maybe that is not always a good thing. I think you're already a writer.

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  12. Oh yeah, I think all writers swing between being our own worst critics and our biggest fans.

    All the best with your writing!

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    1. Thank you. We can be really harsh on ourselves, but luckily we will be cheering for ourselves soon enough.

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  13. This is truly a wonderful message, Murees, and I'm going to take it to heart. Thank you.

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  14. You are very welcome. I am glad it could be of some help to you.

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  15. Hopefully for all of us, the moments of believing in ourselves are far more numerous than the moments of doubting ourselves!

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    1. I really hope so too. Sometimes it is for me and other times not. It's like a roller coaster.

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  16. HI Murees - it's so true we aren't too confident in our own way forward are we ... it's one step at a time and trying to ignore all the naysayers along the way ... just quietly getting on with your own life on that path towards your dreams .. things change, so learn as you go ... and just put the next finger on that next key!! Happy writing .. cheers Hilary

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