Tuesday, May 7, 2013

SOME PEOPLE SHOULD JUST SHUT UP

I am at a loss of what to do today. I have been at my new job for almost three months and my new co-worker is making no effort to accept me or treat me with respect. She has made it clear that she does not like fat people (I am fat by the way) and she has this way of using humour to insult me.

I have confronted her and once, after being completely overwhelmed by annoyance and anger, went ape shit on her and letting a really bad cuss word slip, which is completely not like me, but she still did not stop. She lightened up for a while, but then she just went back to her bitchy ways. I talked to my boss and all that he said was that I had to understand that not everyone was as professional as me. I am the kind of person that goes to work, to work. My job requires a lot of focus and concentration, as I process data that has a direct impact on other people’s money.

I have been called a cold person, but that is because I am very focused and determined and I take my job, whatever it might be, seriously. I guess I can be seen as too professional, but that is just who I am. Now I don’t know what I should do. I can’t quite, I have bills to pay. Other jobs are damn scarce and this chick (yes, she is a woman) thinks she is my boss when we are actually on an equal level, she just happens to have been in the same job and position for the past 10 years. She acts like she owns me or something.

Of course I bud heads with anyone who tries to force their opinion or ideas down my throat. I have mentioned to her that I want to do my job and then go home. I am not here for drama or to make friends. I get paid to be professional and do my job to the best of my ability. Even my boss said that that was why he hired me. Today I just kept speaking my mind which just made things worse.

I honestly feel tired emotionally because I don’t want to deal with other people’s crap. Why can’t they just do their job? I think I might have to go through the proper channels and make an official complaint or something. Oh, did I mention that I am only on a temporary contract and that she is permanent? Apparently all new data capturers are only given temporary contracts, which can be extended every few months. I honestly do not want to be at the company 
any more. I feel like I was lied to about many things in my interview as most people at the company do not know what the word professional means.  I was told to adhere to certain rules and procedures but most people in the company do not. It feels like I am on a different planet certain days.

I felt this way after the first month and kept it all in, till now, but I had to share. I am just not the suffering in silence type. I thought the problem was me at first and I tried to do things differently in every other way, but still, the same result. I have been having he worst luck with jobs the past few years that I just don't know what to do. 

Aside for blogging, things have not gone good on the writing front. Not to mention that I have not heard from my agent in a few months, so I guess it is just bad news for me all around lately. But A-Z was great. It kept my mind off most of the work drama. 

7 comments :

  1. I'm sorry to here about your work drama :( That is never fun. What writing projects are you working on right now? I hope that you here back soon. Hang in there!

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  2. I'm so sorry!!! It is so hard to have confrontations--I'm not very good at those. You sound like you are standing your ground and I can't help but think that things will turn around. Continue being you, what your doing is important for all the clients who have their money with your firm. I think it's wonderful that you are focused at your job and you are right...some people should just shut up. :)
    Hang in there!! xo!

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  3. Sarah - Thank you! Your kind words make it all better. I am not really sure about where the story is going. It is turning out more like a historical romance, but it is early days yet. I have to write more.

    Lisa - Thank you. Your words are so kind and comforting and makes me feel much better.

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  4. I am sorry that things are rough at work. That never makes life easy.

    But hang in there - you ARE the professional.

    I'm sending SHUT UP vibes to that freaking co-worker!

    Hang in there.

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  5. A bit of practical advice. Document all action/comments by this co-worker that are offensive. When you've got a reasonable list, go back to your boss and remind him that you are protected by law from a "hostile working environment" and you expect him to take immediate action to correct the situation.

    Going legal should be a last resort but it sounds like you may be at that point.

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  6. I'd probably end up being really childish and when she's having a go at me say something like "If you like"...

    ie. "You're a really horrible person," she says.

    "If you like," I reply, or "Yes okay." And I'd have a smile on my face.

    Seriously though, try not to listen to her. Let her inane whiny voice go right over the top of your head (because I can hear inane and whiny - I'd love to know if I'm right!)

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  7. Jai - Thank you! You are so awesome.

    LD - Thank you very much, that is excellent advice. You are right, I am at that point where I need to really do something about this situation.

    Annalisa - She is incredibly whiny and I actually think that she might be crazy. Your advice is really great as well, as annoying her might also be a great way to get her back and I can have a laugh doing it. Thanks.

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