Friday, May 31, 2013

IT IS HIGH SCHOOL ALL OVER!

I have been trying to figure out why it is that I am not fitting in at my place of employment, even though I have gone out of my way to be nice and try and fit in as best as I can and I now know why. It is because it is high school all over again. For those of  you who do not know this, I was never popular. I was always a loner and I was just never good at making friends. Apparently I thought outside of the box and that is frowned upon.

Now, once again, I am the much talked about weird kid who is gossiped about and picked on. Walking into a place where everyone hates you is kind of upsetting and it does hurt my feelings, but hey, my family tells me that is what people do in the real world. They suck it up. A few months ago it was just my one co-worker that hated me and now it seems everyone at work hates me too and has joined her to destroy me or something.

Is there not a point in your life where the whole high school mentality stops and everyone starts thinking for themselves? Are there actually people who still care about who is cool and who is not? Are there actually still people that only wants to be friends with the cool kids? If there are, I can't even begin to understand that kind of mentality. I have never been the kind of person to have other people think for me or force me into things. I never wanted to be one of the cool kids and for some reason, that just makes me even more hated at work, which is my high school experience all over again.

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  1. So sorry you're experiencing this. I don't understand that behavior from adults. I expect it from teens. However, I see it in adults all the time. Perhaps you should look for a different job if you feel you have no future where you are. Good luck!

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  2. I was going to suggest the same thing Carol said. Perhaps it's the place of employment. You may be happier where you didn't have to have such close proximity to your co-worers.
    Manzanita

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  3. I'm sorry you're still feeling this way, and that it seems to be escalating. I know the other advice here is to find a new job, but I also know how hard it was for you to find THIS one! If it was me, I'd probably break at some point and tell them to grow up... But you're much nicer than me, so I'm not sure that would work for you. So, no advice just hugs from me :-)

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  4. Carol - Thank you for the kind words. I am keeping my out for a different job, because you are so right.

    Manzanita - Thank you. I have never been good with people, but these people are just ridiculous. Thank you for the kind words.

    Annalisa - Thank you for the hugs! I needed them and your advice is really great. I had recently blown my lid and still things are the same. But, I will stick it out at this job until I find something else. After all, it is only meant to be temporary. I am will be scouring the papers for work.

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  5. Oh I know the feeling - I have had the worst time at my current job and while I've learned to work around the atmosphere, I still - nearly one year later - don't feel like I fit in or belong or am that well liked. So to answer your question - nope, it doesn't get better. If you can't work around it, then keep looking for work and get out as soon as you can.

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  6. Oh Murees. I'm so sorry that you are still experiencing problems with your work mates. Just try hang in there until something better comes along.
    Writer In Transit

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  7. Nicole - Thank you for the kind words and advice. I think you are so brave for sticking it out, even though others were making things tough for you.

    Michelle - Thank you. I will try my best.

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  8. I think the only thing you have control over is your reaction. Don't give them your energy. Find a job where you (and others) are mentally challenged so the focus is on the work (easier said than done).

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  9. Tonja - Thank you Tonja. I have to learn not to let their rudeness affect me, but it is hard. I started looking for new jobs last week, so at least I am trying to get out.

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  10. Wow, that really sucks. Sorry to hear that.What is worse, is that it affects how you work and feel after work. Best get out, life is to short. Hopefully you can find a place without all the drama. Good-luck!

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  11. Tanya - Thank you. I am really trying to find another job as soon as possible. Thanks for the kind words.

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