Saturday, April 20, 2013

R = REGRETS


I think that regret is one of the most awful emotions ever. It makes you feel bad about yourself, even though there is nothing that you can do about certain situations. Regret is also one of the emotions that I feel most often. I am one of those people who hang onto bad memories and experiences for far too long, when in truth, I am supposed to simply let them go. I worry about the regrets that I will never have a chance to fix and in truth, I will probably never be able to do anything about most of them, which is why I believe that regrets should simply be left in the past. If there is nothing you can do to make up for regretting to do something, then simply let it go, leave it behind. I know I have lost too much sleep already, worrying about things that I have no control over. 

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  1. Regrets should definitely be left in the past, or you'll quickly find yourself living in the past. The best way to overcome regrets is to not have any - always make the most of every opportunity and be the best person you can be!

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  2. My granddaughter and I have been discussing just such a question. We came to the conclusion that there are red flags strewn all over the place where there is an emotional, stressful situation ahead of us. If we heed the flags and do not go "there" we will have no regrets. For instance, she (granddaughter) was seeing a "very nice gentleman" for 3 weeks and within that time-frame there were 4 drama events that he alone was responsible for. Already, the stress level was high and she knew if she continued to see him, she would have terrible regrets if she had not with-drawn from him at this beginning point.

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  3. It's much easier to tell ourselves that we won't have any regrets than actually not having them. I'm not sure what your beliefs are but this always helps me as I tend to be a worrier, too:

    Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. - Matthew 6:34

    Jaime at Awakenings and Reflections

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  4. Annalisa - That is excellent advise, thank you so much for sharing it. I should definitely try it.

    Manzanita - Your words are so true. We should know when to let go. I tend to hang onto things and people too long as well.

    Jaime - Your words are very comforting and true. I always have to work really hard to not hang onto things too long or else it does end up haunting me. Thank you for the great advice.

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  5. I don't really regret anything, well not too many things. Yes, like everyone else, I've messed up and done some pretty stupid and irresponsible things, but these are all life lessons that make us who we are now. :-)

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  6. Everybody has regrets in life... some have more than others...
    The important thing is, don't allow yourself to be consumed by regrets where you can't function properly because of it...

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  7. Ermie - That is a great attitude to have. Thank you for sharing it with me.

    Michelle - Thank you for the fantastic advice.

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  8. That's some sage advice. If you can't leave them in the past, you're doomed to carry an immense weight that will eventually drown you in self pity or despair.

    Never carry an emotional burden longer than you need to, eh?

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  9. I don't think anyone can avoid feeling regret, but eventually you have to let it go (to make room for the next one).

    mood
    Moody Writing

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  10. Regrets are one thing I manage to avoid, simply because I know I can't change the past. However, that's not to say there aren't things I wish I would have done differently, I just try not to dwell on them.

    "Never regret something that once made you smile." Don't know who wrote it, but this also helps.

    Have fun with a-z.

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  11. I just nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award! Congratulations, I really enjoyed your writing. More about it here: Liebster. You don't have to accept it (there's some "work" to do!), but please let me know either way so I can keep your link in my post.

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  12. Congratulations on being awarded a Leibster by Bradley. Would you believe me if I said I have no regrets? I have a list of acceptable mistakes but no regrets. I think forgiveness (of yourself) is the best way to let their power over you go.

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  13. Crystal - Exactly! I don't need any more despair or self pity.

    Mooderino - So true! I tend to hang onto things too long.

    Jessica - That is a great quote. I need to learn to move on faster and enjoy the present more.

    Bradley - Thank you so much.

    Ida - Thank you and that is just wonderful. I guess I find it hard to forgive myself. I need to start.

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